The N Words Sup Wit Dat?

I don't think that there is much that I can say here I just wanted to post this on my site so that we can have some dialogue going on about this N word thing.
I don't really think about it only because I can't believe the word still gets used yes even by my. By habit really because as I was growing up thats what I heard and still today I hear the word in my community and in my family.
Here is what is interesting though is that when you are a fly on the wall listening to the word you know the inflections of the voice to know the meaning of said N word if that makes sense.
Example:

1. Two brothas come up to one another and give each other dap and says, "What's up my N!" and they hug. - That is a term of endearment there
2. A group of young teens are walking through the mall all African American, two older black women shake their heads and say "Chile look at that group of N's right there, they need to calm down" - Hooligans, punks
3. Spike Lees School Daze scene at KFC Samuel Jackson says "Ya'll N's and you gone be N's just like us" - a term of self hatred passed down from generation to generation.
4. A young lady is on the phone with her best friend speaking of her boyfriend and how happy she is with him she says , "Girl I love my boo that's my N" - she loves her man

These are just examples of how our community uses this word. It is hard to explain but Jeraldo Rivera said something interesting today on Fox News this morning on this topic.
He being Latino told of how white ranchers in Texas used the derogatory term Chicano to describe their workers. It meant to the white ranchers they were low lifes. He said now you can hear Latinos calling themselves Chicano and claiming it as a sense of pride rather than what it was created to mean. They took the word and made it their own.
You know in the black community we do that same thing but because there is 400 hundreds years of slavery, abuse, degradation and genocide that is associated with that word it still to this holds a bitter taste in our mouths and goodnes don't let anyone else use it that is not African American.
I'm not excusing it, I'm explaing MY point and how I myself understand the word. So the next time you hear the word listen, really listen and then dicipher the true meaning.
Then make up your own mind on where that word should be in your own personal vocabulary.